1. Always put yourself first
Ultimately, a femme fatale is ruthlessly ambitious. She doesn’t step over people with her killer stilettos, though. To channel her independence and driven attitude, set goals and achieve them. Above all, focus on yourself and what thrills you. When you get to the top without needing anyone, you’ll leave everyone breathless.
For example, if someone you're dating wants to have a spontaneous dinner out, but you'd prefer to pull an all-nighter to work on a project that will impress your colleagues, say, "I really can't—duty calls. Marketing, you know? How about this weekend?"
Remember, it's not selfish to make yourself your number one priority. If anything, loving yourself makes you an empowering icon to look up to.
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2. Be independent
To be a true femme fatale, rely on yourself and only yourself. While it’s fun to fantasize about a lover or see if your friends will call you up, focus on being happy on your own. Develop your own passions and carve out plenty of time for personal growth and self-improvement. Once you discover you’re all you need, people will notice the way you glow with self-assurance.
You can form meaningful relationships with people, but you remember—even if you’re dating the lover of your dreams, it’s best if you act like you don't need them.
Let your SOs know your philosophy about enjoying lovers but not depending on them with a remark like, "I really appreciate and value your company. It's a great bonus to have you in my life."
3. Be confident about the power you have
Before you head out to take over the world, say some affirmations. For instance, tell yourself, “I am an incredible woman, and anyone who meets me is lucky!” Believe in yourself and the way you can work a room—you’ll rack up a ton of fans and have them all wrapped around your finger.
If you notice that everyone is looking at you, don't doubt yourself. Congratulate yourself. You've single-handedly managed to steal the show just by walking in.
When you see someone you want to befriend or win over, give yourself an inner pep talk like, "Of course they'll fall for me and all I have to offer. Everyone does! I just have to be myself."
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6. Act “expensive” so everyone treats you like a star
Carry yourself like royalty or a celebrity. Hold your head up high, practice good posture, and walk gracefully. When you socialize with others, act mildly amused so it seems like you aren’t worried about being popular—you’re just there to have a good time.
Ask for your "signature drink" with conviction because you know what you want and expect it. For example, instead of waiting for a bartender's attention, announce, "I'll have a Dark and Stormy—thank you."
Play hard to get and give everyone the sense that your schedule is booked because you're so sought after. Casually make a remark like, "Well, this has been fun, and maybe we'll run into each other again."
Unavailability can be really sexy. For example, if a man reaches out and asks to catch up, but you want to get him to chase you, tell him, "I'm all booked up. Check in with me next week."
7. Carry yourself with poise and grace
Treat yourself and the people around you with respect. Practice common courtesy, like asking for someone’s name. Show that you’re dignified and prove that manners matter to you. For instance, thank a hostess for inviting you to a party. Remain composed and put together the entire time you’re out. Everyone will see you as the epitome of a real lady and idolize you.
Show that you're kind to other women. When you express interest in them instead of upstaging or ignoring them, you'll demonstrate the strength of your character. For example, say, "It's nice to see you again, Susan. How is your graduate program going? It sounds fascinating!"
Avoid consuming too much alcohol while you're out—just one drink should be enough if you want to enjoy yourself a bit.
